A Brief Explanation as to what an Question Post is (Sorry about this but when in doubt explain in such details that all doubts are buried in questions! :P)
An Question Post is on which questions you readers to think as to who is right and who is wrong. These will mostly involve situations that I have encountered in my life either via personal experience or second-hand via friends/family asking for advice. These will raise questions morally, ethically, personally and ask you to THINK from BOTH your HEART and your BRAIN (Yeah I know some of us including me dont have it but we gotta work with what we do have!). Typically it will have 1 Question Post and 1 Answer Post (Which will be posted on the “next post day” including any replies which the Question post has received.) So its kind of like a Discussion done via Posts seeking opinions and answers for myself and anyone else with similar questions.
NOW ON WITH THE POST! BOO YEAH! (Always wanted to do that! 😛)
Recently a friend of mine, who is an excellent author and a fellow blogger, posted a story talking about a poor guy who kills his father’s pride and mother’s dream to accomplish his own dream of being a dancer. (Well that wasn’t the moral of the story. Moral was more like when we work to our own dreams we often crush the dreams of others about us.)
You can find the story here: The Wrong Right by AdiC
So, coming back to the point. This reminded me of a topic I had recently been discussing with a fellow anonymous user on Woo (To those who know what this is. Yes I used it *blush* Sue Me! Oh wait! You cant! 😛). Who is to blame for a decision that you make heavily influenced by your parents. Is it your parents or you?
As children we often face this huge obstacle to our every action which is PERMISSION FROM PARENTS. Which is a necessary part of growing up since it teaches us the difference between right and wrong, and essentially sets our Moral Compass to the Social North (or at least the Familial North).
From choosing the right clothes to the right career to the right girl, we are dependent on our MUCH MORE EXPERIENCED Parents about nearly everything. Some of us choose to break-free of this dependence and some of us don’t.
From personal experience: Back when I was a young kid who was standing before one of the first life-changing decision of my life, I was heavily influenced by my parents to pick a career of their choice instead of the one thing I knew better than anything else. This decision has haunted me for the past 4 years of my life. Not because the career they chose was in any way harmful to me. But because the question of WHAT IF doesn’t stop. Now I am sure plenty of people say, “Why worry about what can’t be or What has already passed?”.
THE ANSWER IS BECAUSE ITS OUR NATURE. We as humans tend to think and overthink about things that could be rather than what things are. And until we find a definite answer or a newer question. THIS DOESN’T STOP. (Or maybe thats just me! 😛)
So now that I am in the final stages of completing this Course and getting my degree. The first question that comes to my mind is: IS THIS WHAT I REALLY WANT TO DO?
Also. Having failed at the finals twice (Yeah we can repeat it as many times as we want until we finally clear it. Incidentally. This course has one of the lowest Passing Percentage of 3-7% per term. As in barely 3 to 7 people pass out of a 100 each time the exams are administered. GO FIGURE!).
The first question that came to my mind was. Would it have been the same if I’d chosen Computer Engineering as my choice of Career. The answer was I dont know. And I can never know because that option was taken from me long before I had enough brain cells to figure it out.
The next question that came to my mind was. WHO IS TO BLAME?
Now here is where I need your help my lovely awesome and intelligent readers.
Am I to blame for blaming my parents instead of just focusing on the career choice made for me and giving it my all. OR. Are my parents to blame for making me choose something that runs in the family instead of what my heart really truly wanted?
Even as I write this post I have just finished studying for my next attempt in the soon-approaching month of May in which I hope to clear this course once and for all.
A new Post containing my reply along with yours will be posted in exactly 2 days on the night of 14th of March. Hope to see you soon!
CHEERS!
P.S. The current posting Schedule is every other day (Well night really since most of my posts are written around 11:30PM but you get it. I hope! 😛)
Piece From Chaos 